My wedding night was incredibly nerve-wracking, but not for the reasons you might assume.
I had to undergo deinfibulation, the surgical procedure that would correct the mutilation done to my genitalia twelve years ago by my grandmother, Kansime
In the hospital operating room, I look up at my husband, Dele and I see him looking back at me with poorly disguised worry.
The doctor had explained how this was a relatively minor surgery. She made it sound so easy.
But as I look down my body at the curtain blocking off the activities of the doctor, memories of that bloody day assailed my senses.
Even though I was anaesthetised to the physical pain, the emotional pains that lingered clawed their way up my body.
I saw a scrub nurse pass a scalpel to the doctor. The blade she would use to tear me open again.
A similar instrument Kansime had weilded on another special day for me: The day of my “Purification”.
Two memorable days. Two blades.
But, that’s where the similarities ended. This scalpel was brand new, sterile and sharp as a razor should be, the other had been as old as I could remember, covered in blood, rust and the pain of my predecessors.
It was my grandmother’s job to “purify” the girls of my village. Having lived with her all my life, I knew what to expect when it was my turn to be “purified”
“This is going to make you an acceptable woman in society” Kansime had told me.
But I knew better
I was held by four women who had me pinned in their vice-like grips, stilling my struggles
“Mama, no!” I screamed repeatedly as Kansime cut my clitoris.
White hot pain radiated from that point and enveloped my whole being.
It was so painful, I barely noticed as she stitched my vulva closed, save for a little opening that a finger could barely pass through.
“All done!” The doctor announced.
After getting settled in my private recovery room, I was left alone with my husband for the first time since I met him yesterday. Ours had been a marriage arranged by my grandmother.
Nervously, I asked “What now?”
“Now, you sleep” He kisses my forehead reassuringly like he senses the direction of my troubled thoughts.
Kansime had done only one thing right and that was her choosing this wonderful man for me.
I need more!!!!!!!
This is so awesome
Love the ending! ❤️❤️😭
This is such a horrible thing. I’ve never understood the purpose behind this. Its a barbaric tradition that needs to be stopped. This short story is amazing
Beautiful writeup
This was an amazing right up. This should be an issue that should be raised up.
I love this. I never knew FGM was reversible. Great work
This is so amazing, i love it ❤️❤️❤️
How sad and unbelievable that females are also mutilated in some parts of this country.
This is so pure. This speaks of pure experience.
I’m really happy that the world is attempting to do a lot to stop this genital mutilation but a lot more needs to be done
This is a very beautiful write up, you’re amazing!
I love, this with all my heart
The beauty and style of the writing supercedes the ugliness of the act it portrays…
Nice one
She got one good thing in her life at the end but really this practice is s gross abuse of womanhood and should be abolished.
Wow… what an amazing story!
Nice write up
This is amazing, I love it
I can only imagine the number of women that have to endure the trauma and physical scars from FGM… this was a great read, a lot is happening in the world and I’m glad we are raising awareness
I can only imagine the number of women that have to endure the trauma and physical scars from FGM… this was a great read, a lot is happening in the world.
Wow! Awesome writeup
Touching story, well done for the enlightenment Haneefa
A well written expository and touching, to say the least.
Kudos👏
Beautiful story… you go girl!!!
Amazing piece.!!
I felt empathy in your write-up
Keep it up 👍
Captivating story!!
Ma sha Allah my dear!!!
This FGM needs a lot of enlightenment. A lot of people are still in the dark
Beautifully written and very compelling. Keep it up 👍
Nice write up
What an experience, it’s quite unfortunate how long some trauma lasts.
Awesome, bravo!!
I love the ending so much❤️
This is sad. God!! I pray that people who go through this hell heal.
Interesting read, well done.
Very wonderful write up dear and a very interesting and educative topic
Writing literally is soooooooo awesome,
Could feel it in my every being 🥺🤧
This is so so so awesome 🔥… we need more of this
Wow what a pathetic interesting story
I love this creativity
Thumbs up for you
Awesome!!!
This write up is soul connecting ❤️
Am anticipating for more.
Amazing
The are lines that could move on their own. An elixir. A worthy read.
Okay, this was so gory, but also so darn sweet! Great job, Neefa!
I’m so glad we’re speaking up against this terrible tradition… So many young girls are victims and it’s really heartbreaking, good write up dear.
Amazing piece, well written
An excellent piece! FGM is a barbaric practice that calls for collective campaign to end the scourge
This disguised-as-humane but totally inhumane and barbaric act to the female gender should be abolished and no longer be practiced. Good writeup. There should be more enlightenment on the dangers of FGM to the world. Kudos spp mi👍
This is beautiful,was really an enlightening read.
Wonderful write up👍🏻
Keep it up dear
A very short but powerful story….go girl♥️
Beautiful piece
This is wonderful
Well written.
It’s been a while i read something really educative as this….. Kudos to the writer. i must say FGM should be treated on same level as other societal problems.
Good read, Love it
Wow! Wow!! Wow!!!
This is awesome👍
Pain and frustration, that’s what I’m feeling right now. 🥲😔
Thank you for this piece Haneefa, more people need to be enlightened🫂🫂
This is an amazing write up
This story is so perfect! I hope concerned bodies will keep it up to bring an end to this!
Your story is wholesome. I felt so much sensation while reading.
This is really sad! Nobody deserves to go through such.Thankyou for the enlightenment❤️
Nice one dear. Keep it up
Genital mutilation has to be stopped. Her greatest luck is that she got married to an understanding man.
A beautifully written piece!
I totally loved the write up, amazing stuff! 😁
Oh, goodness! This was so touching
A really pretty story!
Nice write-up
A wonderful write-up 👍
A beautiful story
Beautifully narrated❤
Beautiful write up… well done
Interesting!!❤
*sighs in 1800* no one should have to go through this pain so as to not enjoy pleasure while bring exposed to health risks.
Wow!
This is beautiful
Beautiful Beautiful write up❤❤
Wow! I love this write up. Clearly, not much is being done to stop this practice as some parts of the world still indulge in them. Let’s all work to fight FGM!!
Wonderful!
what a heart touching story💔
Totally adorable!
I’m really impressed!
This practice is such a barbaric one that needs to be stopped once and for all! I hope this creates enough awareness.
Make sure you win!
Wonderful story sis.
Well-done..this is a beautiful piece ♥️